- it normalises violence
- it normalises violence against women, regardless of the genders or sexes of those involved
- Big/little, specifically, Daddy/little girl, normalises sexualizing of children and young girls and normalises #pedophillia
- most of the things subs, regardless of gender or sex, are called pet names and insults that are often feminine, ie princess, #bitch, sissy, which associates reinforces feminine = submissive or homophobic under the guise of reclaiming in cases of m/m, ie fag
- forced feminization*, where a male sub will be dressed in traditionally feminine clothes and/or forced to complete traditionally feminine tasks, occasionally for punishment and/or for the ends of erotic humiliation, is insulting to women, trans or cis, because it perpetuates that being a woman is degrading (* interesting, it uses the word forced. which suggests the sub does not consent)
- if not done properly, for example #choking, if someone doesn’t have a working knowledge of the anatomy of the throat and neck, which i am assuming most kinksters don’t, could seriously injure someone
- a comment a male dom made, reblogging the infographic in the like above; #Bitches don’t need to breath. You only need to stop before the c-t dies.
- women in either role only exist for male pleasure
- the simple fact that another word needs to mean stop, other than the word stop, is wrong (and I mean like a safeword like sunflower, not another word in english that means stop like cease and desist; don’t try ad prove me wrong on a technicality)
- just because some women enjoy bdsm, doesn’t make it a feminist activity
Mmm I think you have got it all wrong about the concept of BDSM and I have only 50 shades of grey to blame for this because you just described exactly what the book is about and not the actual meaning of BDSM practice.
It´s okay though, in a world where there is so little information about this its no surprise many people thing it´s “forced” or there is no consent (which actually is KEY to a proper BDSM sesion.) or think it´s linked to pedofilia and many things you mentioned, I was unfamiliar with what BDSM meant too until I found this webcomic Sunstone by Shiniez.
This comic is not about explicit sex and it actually gives you A LOT of textual information about the relationship between a sub and a dom, what really BDSM is about instead of what you would find in google (which I´m sure the author of 50 shades did). It was very educational and I think you´ll feel better if you speak about BDSM after you got more information of it.
Enjoy your educational class :) the art is AMAZING! haha